Dealing with Anger

 

Information and techniques are constantly passed our via many a source, it can be from right here, a magazine, a radio show, the TV, and the best as far as I am concerned is from a friend. So today when I awoke I was on a social network and read something posted by my friend Heather and I feel it is such a great piece of information that I must share it here.

Posted on Indigo Healing Group by Waseema Ryklief

We are being challenged more and more to look at ourselves honestly, to see what’s hiding in our shadow selves-(the place within ) where our fears, anger, hurts, jealousies, resentments and so forth dwell. How are we challenged? This comes in the form of our relationships and co-existence with others.
When the day begins with a series of signs; we have an argument with our partner over breakfast, we get stuck in traffic, drivers hurl abuse at each other, folks have no respect and think only of themselves, someone steals our parking bay, we get to work and no one holds the lift and so we wait. We arrive at work, our boss already has it in for us, piles on the work and expects it now. We see ahead another thankless, frustrating day. We feel upset, angry, resentful and alone. The world seems to be against us… sound familiar?

We have all experienced this scene in some form or another. The people around us manage to push our buttons, we try to stay calm, but slowly the anger builds. We either suppress these feelings inside or keep quiet or we explode.

Anger is a fear based reaction; anger is a buildup of emotions that have not been cleared and dealt with and almost always has a root cause in a past event. Anger can be aimed at anything, a person, oneself, a system, a race, a belief etc. Wars have been fought because of power, control and anger.

It's an emotion that pops up in our lives again and again.

It follows us whether within ourselves or we see it in other people.
Anger needs to be cleared on a daily basis in order for us to live a more peaceful and productive life.

The world is a big mirror, reflecting back our strengths and weaknesses. As we clear our issues the mirror is no longer required. In this way, as we rid ourselves of anger, situations that cause us to experience this feeling, no longer need to occur. With a sense of awareness, as to why these situations occur, we begin to use them as warning signs, that there is something we are not seeing within ourselves and by acknowledging this, we can begin the clearing process.

  

image by AmberMidnight

The mind is a powerful tool and it can convince us that we have released and cleared a pattern or situation, when in fact we are still holding on to a part of this. Anger is never cleared immediately, if there is a deep seated issue linked to this emotion (the root is mostly childhood pain/trauma, a feeling of powerlessness that an adult had over us) and help may be required to start a releasing process and to clear the issue completely and effectively. It becomes a journey of understanding; we learn how to defuse the triggers. We begin to understand why we react. We look at the situation from another point of view, as it may look very different from that angle.

We have the choice how we choose to react. No one can force us to react in a certain way. Fact is that there will always be someone or something that will trigger anger. How fast we are able to clear this depends on us and our willingness to work on it. It is good to become aware of how we react, how we choose to understand both our emotional reactions and those of the other person.

For example: the rude driver may be having a really bad day and let us not forget that we most likely have also reacted in this manner either towards ourselves or another at some point in our life. With this in mind let us practice LOVE Send love and light to the driver and bless them. This can be really uplifting and as we bless others so are we blessed in return.

 

You Exist.

 

Once you start to awaken, no one can ever claim you again for the old patterns. Now you realize how precious your time here is. You are no longer willing to squander your essence on undertakings that do not nourish your true self; your patience grows thin with tired talk and dead language. You see through the rosters of expectation which promise you safety and the confirmation of your outer identity. Now you are impatient for growth, willing to put yourself in the way of change. You want your work to become an expression of your gift. You want your relationship to voyage beyond the pallid frontiers to where the danger of transformation dwells.

When you begin to sense that your imagination is the place where you are most divine, you feel called to clean out of your mind all the worn and shabby furniture of thought. You wish to refurbish yourself with living thought so that you can begin to see. 

As Meister Eckhart says: Thoughts are our inner senses. 

When the inner senses are dull and blurred, you can see nothing in or of yourself; you become a respectable prisoner of received images. Now you realize that 'eternal vigilance is the price of liberty' and you undertake the difficult but beautiful path to freedom. On this journey, you begin to see how the sides of your heart that seemed awkward, contradictory and uneven are the places where the treasure lies hidden. 

You begin to become true to yourself. 

And as Shakespeare says in Hamlet: To thine own self be true, then as surely as night follows day, thou canst to no man be false.

 

The journey shows you that from this inner dedication you can reconstruct your own values and action. You develop from your own self-compassion a great compassion for others. You are no longer caught in the false game of judgment, comparison and assumption. More naked now than ever, you begin to feel truly alive. You begin to trust the music of your own soul; you have inherited treasure that no one will ever be able to take from you. At the deepest level, this adventure of growth is in fact a trans-figurative conversation with your own death. And when the time comes for you to leave, the view from your death bed will show a life of growth that gladdens the heart and takes away all fear.

-John O'Donohue © John O’Donohue. All rights reserved.  http://www.johnodonohue.com

Truth...be told.

 

The truth is revealed to you when you are ready to see and transform it. It comes to you as a reminder of where you were not standing in your power, were in fear or doubt or forgot your own divinity. It is not there to remind you of your imperfections, although that is what you might see. This is where you can find the perfection in the perceived imperfections, the rose among what may appear to be a pile of thorns. It is a very powerful realization that can free you from lifetimes of experiences in which you wanted to learn the lesson of truth. When you can see the truth you are ready for the awareness of your power. 

The truth of your past is not the truth of your present moment. 

The truth is revealed when you are ready to resolve your lessons and create new realities.